Remedy to change intents (Emotional distress)

Don’t waste your time finding out why the person mistreated you; your natural empathy may convince you that he deserves some sympathy and that you can love them into changing – yes you can love them but changing is totally their decision to make; stop building castles in the air. The truth is love itself becomes distorted during the process of abuse. You cannot trust love to help you at this point because the hurt has perverted your perception of love (that is why they are still the object of your love); love isn’t supposed to hurt if it’s true.

The most difficult phase in the recovery process is when  you begin to notice some hurtful truths; this even hurts more than the abuse itself but it is just for a while. Soon as you begin to deprogram your mind and exit from the abuser’s world,  you would start experiencing some unpleasant and agonizing emotions from time to time. You would begin to see for the fact that they actually intended to do what they did but you were too blind or carried away to notice and that their sweet face and personality was just a mask to lure you into their trap; now you begin to direct all your anger to yourself. This is the point you need your support system the most to constantly remind you that it wasn’t your fault and that you only did what you felt was right at that time. Just be patient, it would soon be over.