Keys to effective Relationship

What do you take me for?

You need to be very careful with the way you take the people whom God has placed in your life.

What do you see when you look at people? Do you see a money tree,  a partner in crime, an errand boy,  an object to satisfy your sexual desires, a cook, an adviser, a doctor, an assistant, a ladder with which you need to climb in your career, a trophy to be won or someone who meets your needs?

A lot of people are gradually beginning to recognize their true worth and identity these days, and are finding it very difficult to be around people who don't. So it is important that you do the same if you intend to have them around for long.

There comes a point in people's lives when all they need is a friend and not just another sucker branch. These people have discovered their true identity and have realized that their worth and value is not tied to their possessions, gifts, talents and abilities; they understand that those things are just things they own and what they do but not who they are.

When you read about Jesus in scriptures, you would notice that the closest people to him were those who came to Him because they wanted to know him and be with Him and not just because they needed Him to do something for them. 2 of such people were John and Mary Magdalene. These guys had an intimate relationship with Jesus; they saw Jesus for who He was and not just for what He could do. There is a big difference between who a person is and what he does.

People who know their worth know that they are way bigger than what they have and what they can do. It is like an insult to them when that is all you see when you look at them; people who they don't really care about can get by with it but not someone with whom they've established that connection, they may even withdrawal the benefits. Even scriptures advise us to seek first the kingdom,  then we get all the benefits added.

No matter how much you try to mask it, people who have established a connection with you can recognize the difference between when you are coming to them  just because of what you can get from them and when you are coming to them because you want them; especially the ones who have discovered their true identity.

Seek the man, not just his hand!